Sunday, April 17, 2005

For Pete's Sake, Come Out and Say It!

I just don't get why girls are so afraid to make the first move and ask a guy out...

About 4 out of every 5 girls I've questioned on this issue agree that they would never make the first move. I'm not sure whether this reluctancy stems from the thought that by asking the guy out they may be putting themselves in an inferior position or whether it's just plain stubborness to conform to traditional methodology.

Almost all the girls I've spoken to regarding this matter believe that they would rather wait and wait (and then wait some more), until the guy they liked asked them out. Meanwhile the guy in question has no idea that this girl likes him and so would never end up asking her out. So she waits some more. I fail to think of a better example of the classical "lose-lose" situation.

The girl believes the guy should be able to read the signs of interest that she is emitting and then take up the initiative. What she doesn't realize is that guys are thoroughly incompetent at reading between the lines in such matters. Body language is Greek to them. Except if he's Greek, in which case it's Swahili. (If you happen to be interested in a boy of mixed Hellenic/African parentage, then go ahead with the signs!) It would just be so much simpler for both parties involved if the girl spoke her mind. Really.

Everyone like to hear that someone likes them. A guy is no different. So if you like him, just say so. It's not going to be as if you're selling yourself short. And he's definitely not going to think any less of you because of it.

In the words of a famous ad-line - "Just Do It!"


Aditya Bidikar said...

One of my friends (a girl, I might add) mailed me an article about this, written by Dave Barry.

It basically said that perhaps we have been given the function of making the first move (human males and male animals as well) because women do all the rest of the hard things - giving birth, maintaining the house, bleeding once a month etc.

I understood the logic, and theoretically, I agree, but that doesn't change the fact that my knees start quaking if I think of asking a girl out.

arnold said...

hey! i disagree... women do have a good time too.. as i had shown in the previous blog post!

Aditya Bidikar said...

Jokes apart, I actually agree with only points 8, 4 and 3. The others are just funny. Looking at things seriously, I think women have it a lot tougher than us, and you'll know if you start reading books by women.

I've got a list of things the other way around somewhere in my Google inbox, but I'll be damned if I can find it. I'll mail it to you as soon as possible, and I'll mail you the Dave Barry article.

The list is very funny, though. I recognised point 1 from Friends, but are some of them your own?

arnold said...

yea, point 1 is incidentally from friends (although, i came up with the theme and them just pilfered the actual words from there).. i guess, in this country women do have a tougher time than men.. but i dont think tht's true universally.

Aditya Bidikar said...

Perhaps you may be right, although I do think that women have the right to be more paranoid than men. (For example, if we're walking down the street at night, we are only afriad of being robbed, but for them ... well, you can guess.) But I agree that things are improving for women. And that's a good thing