Friday, February 24, 2006

To Sleep or Not to Sleep?

To me, nothing epitomizes the stark differences between a man and a woman, as nicely as their attitude toward sex.

A man’s brilliance lies in his ability to separate sex and love from each other completely, if need be. Completely! A guy could, for instance, sleep with someone he hates, if she’s physically attractive. That’s the most important thing for a guy when it comes to sleeping with someone - is she physically attractive? Yes? Then I’ll sleep with her.

For a woman, the most important factor to consider is whether she loves the guy or not. How he looks isn’t really as important as that. This is because she associates ‘sex’ with ‘love’, and unlike the guy, she cannot easily separate the two into distinctly different corners.

I’m not saying that guys do not associate sex with love at all. I’m just saying that they can separate the two easily should the necessity arise. And that women can’t really do that.

(Of course, none of this applies to High School in America, where everyone sleeps with just about everyone else, irrespective of love, looks, and sometimes even gender!)

25 comments:

ishita said...

sumtimes i feel we're getting there....@ high schools in America...!!

but this reminds me of that sayin "men give luv to get sex...women give sex to get luv"...

sum women...i guess..are changin...gettin casual abt sex...

though...i wish i cld say that men were gettin sensitive too!

Arnold said...

ishita - The situation sure is changing, both in terms of more people having sex in India [and at a younger age] and also more women willing to be casual about it.

About men being sensitive... Ah, well...

_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

Dude... TOTALLY wit u on this one... Y cant females get it in their heads tht Sex and Love ARE TWO almost ENTIRELY different things!!!

ishita said...

ummmmm..."almost entirely"???:-)

phrases like that:).."oxymorons" (a combination of two words that are completely opposite in meaning)...are sumthin i luvv to collect!! Eg: "clearly misunderstood"..."pretty ugly"..."definite maybe"..."silent scream"...!!

u got anymore?:)

_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

ishita: sorry.. goof up. i ment almost entirely "unrelated", not "different".. oops.

_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

AND i think i know what an oxymoron is... after all i've succeeded to reach this coment box..(arnie, dont ask y)

FateGlimpse said...

hmm..well sex and love-making are two different things aren't they? love-making is an intimate, even sacred act. sex is...well i leave the definition upto you men. hence most women cannot separate love and sex-they're intertwined. we're almost in america, so now we've got two kinds of women- aforementioned kind of women, and women who look at sex like men.

Varun said...

haha, good post dude, and true in most cases ;-)

Arnold said...

ishita - if "love-making" and "sex" are two different things like you said, then why cant all women treat them differently? Btw, which clan of women do you belong to?

ishita said...

u answered the question urself arnold...women just don't see it d way men do!!!...i wish i belonged to d latter...if not convenient...life wld be more interesting i guess!?!

and now lemme read ur latest post:)

Arnold said...

ok, a bit of a faux pas there on my part... the reply tht i addressed to ishita should hv been addressed to FateGlimpse instead... sorry

[just for the record...]

FateGlimpse - if "love-making" and "sex" are two different things like you said, then why cant all women treat them differently? Btw, which clan of women do you belong to?

ishita - damned right you are! the second category is definitely a lot more interesting than the first!!

SwitchBlade said...

The act of making love aka sex is a gift from God. It is a sacred unison of two souls that has been trivialized by the world.

If you begin to look at sex and love as two completely different things then arent we behaving like animals? Mating with one another and then moving on til we are 'in heat' once again.

I believe that when two people love one another, they should get married and then consummate their marriage with sex.I'm totally against pre-marital and extra-marital sex. Period.
I doubt whether anyone posting comments here agrees with this and I'm not looking to debate. Just wanted to share my views on this post.

FateGlimpse said...

c women can agree that love-making and sex are different. but many women will still have reservations about sex-with-no-strings-attached. they just will, its hard to reason it out, men just won't understand. they just ain't sensitive enough.

Arnold said...

switchblade - Thanks for sharing your opinion on the matter, Roy! Since you are not willing to debate (and it isnt very feasible to have one, since most of us do not accept your basis of argument, the Bible), we shall not get into a debate on this matter.

There is however one point I'd like to make over here -

What I spoke about isnt the same as treating sex like animals. Animals only have sex for mating purposes. I am referring to separating sex and love to the point where sex serves 3 purposes - a)procreation, b)love-making, and c)satisfying one's carnal desires. It is fairly well accepted that for animals, sex only serves purpose (a).




fateglimpse - sure, that's wht it always boils down to doesnt it? men aren't sensitive enough!?

FateGlimpse said...

always.

Arnold said...

fateglimpse - why? why? why blame all your woes on us poor men?

FateGlimpse said...

poor men?!?! seriously don't get me started on that.. : )

Arnold said...

fateglimpse - why not? go ahead... share your rants with us "innocent" men... :)

Anonymous said...

this is kinda late... but ishita, "almost entirely" is not an oxymoron! your kind definition should tell u that!

FateGlimpse said...

ahh, for that i think i'll need a whole new blog and i really haven't got that sort of time!

Arnold said...

fateglimpse - okay, fair enough... let's just leave the matter at that then, shall we? :)

nina said...

oh i love the last line bout school in america!!!

Arnold said...

nina - lol ... did u experience that first hand??

nina said...

no...considering i have never been to the US of A...n hopefully i never will!!!! but have loads of cuzs there n get all the gossip!!!hehehe....

Arnold said...

nina - gosh! u otta meet most of my classmates... who cant wait to pack their bags and head off to the land of the stars and stripes!! (claim tht there are better business opportunities there ;) )