Friday, October 21, 2005

Just Tell Him!

A woman is strangely averse to telling a man, to his face, that she likes him. Don't ask me why - I don't know! But the fact remains - women do not like making the first move.

Men are much less loth to professing their love for someone. In fact, most times they are too eager to do so - even when they don't really mean it!

Now if there's one thing that women are quite adept at, it's dropping hints. So when they like someone, they start dropping hints. Little hints, big hints, even gift-wrapped hints and hints with marshmallows on them.

The woman hopes that the man catches the hints and makes a move. But she doesn't want him to mention the fact that he caught on to her hints. She wants him to pretend that it was his intention to woo her all along, and that she had nothing to do with spurring him on. Basically, not only does she not want to make the first direct move, she also wants everything to seem like she didn't even make an indirect move!

Seems like the perfect scenario, doesn't it?

1. Woman drops hint.
2. Man catches hint.
3. Man asks woman out.
4. Everyone lives happily ever after blah blah blah...

ALARM! ALARM! ALARM!

There's a slight catch in our rosy fairy tale. A big catch actually! Step [2] just doesn't ever happen! Men are absolutely hopeless at catching hints. Let's just say a man wouldn't recognize a hint if it came up to him and slapped him in the face wearing a bright, yellow T-shirt that said, "I AM A HINT!"

Maybe it's because men aren't good at reading 'into' things. Maybe it's because they don't understand body language. Maybe it's because men and women speak different tongues. Whatever the reason, there's no getting around this stubborn fact.

I think it's because men are simple creatures. A man just can't understand why a woman who likes him would be scared to tell him that. The same brain that has little trouble understanding how the turbo-charged engine of a racecar works, struggles to comprehend this tiny, but oh-so-true fact of life.

The fact about women hinting isn't restricted just to their love lives either. Women are always hinting at things, instead of getting straight to the point. A man eavesdropping [Adamsdropping?] on a conversation between a handful of women wouldn't get half of what they're trying to convey. It would all be in the subtle innuendoes. All the women would understand each other, but our poor guy wouldn't have a clue!

But you know what the worst thing is? After everything is over, women say that men are bad listeners! I mean, the audacity of it all! How do they ever expect us to understand anything, if they don't spit it out straight? It's not as if we aren't paying attention. It's just that no matter how much attention we do pay, we cannot understand what they are trying to get at. Is that our fault?

Bad listeners? Yeah, right!

14 comments:

Salil said...

*In-joke alert*
Is a girl sitting near a guy with her hands buried in her palms on Valentine's Day dropping a hint?? ;-)

Aboli said...
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siddharth said...

hey arnold, the whole hinting and men not getting it funda is mine. Remember our conv at the station at 2am ? so better give me some credit for it.

anish said...

Well, I hope some weird personal experience of yours didn't prompt this.. Missed a chance with someone ?

Is 'Single and Proud of it' just a mask ?

MaK-D said...

hehe u are so right

Arnold said...

salil - *hands* buried in her palms?!? HANDS??? wht are u talking about? how can u bury your hands in your palms?

dani - all u deserve any credit for is suggesting tht the girl doesnt want the guy to act like he knew she was giving him hints...

aboli - see.. my life is so freaking complicated right now tht i cud really do with something tht makes it a whole lot simpler... whtever happened to people wanting to live a simple life?

anish - nope.. no personal experience here, m8!

Salil said...

mea culpa...*face* buried in her palms. makes sense now?

Nupur said...

Hey,nice post...see,one of the reasons is tht its not just the guys tht freak out when it comes to the actual asking out part..
salil-i think he's referring to normal guys not psychos living in a parallel universe:-)

Renuka said...

1. Yes girls give hints and expect guys 2 catch them n react... mayb its jus an ego thing u kno.. either that or the fact that girls love it when their love life gets a fairy tale kinda feel- u kno guys goin down on their knees..blah blah
2. DON'T EVER SAY guys dont get hints...i mean i cud always convey wat ive felt n ive never really had 2 b 2 explicit bout it IF (and only IF) the guy wants to do wat the hint suggests..
Eg:
Girl hints: Lets get cozy...
Guy takes hint b4 she can complete
(sometimes d guy pretends she hinted this even wen she hasnt...thus the conflict of girls not accepting that they give hints...)
Girl hints: Take out the garbage
Guy NEVER gets the hint...even wen its as plain as "Arnold TAKE THE @#$%$ GARBAGE OUT!!!" THATS wen girls say guys don listen...
BOTTOM LINE- guys sooo do get hints n its not that they dont listen...they jus end up doin watever's convenient!

AB said...

He,he,he, I realy enjoy reading your blog! :) AB

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