Tuesday, April 18, 2006

Broken Glass

I don’t know exactly why, but for some reason it appears to me that girls derive immense pleasure from getting in between two guys. No, I’m not talking about a ménage à trois, though I’m sure they derive immense pleasure from that too. What I am referring to is a girl getting between two guys who are friends, and then cleaving their friendship apart little by little, until they aren’t even on talking terms any more.

We’ve seen it happen - either to us or to someone we know. Two guys are good friends, or at least friends at any rate. Then along comes a girl, and suddenly things start to change. It could be because both guys have romantic interests in the common target, it could be because one of them is involved romantically and this bothers the other for some reason, or it could well be for reasons that have naught to do with the affairs of the heart. Something else altogether.

Now this is all fine. It happens, whether one likes it or not. But the part that really gets my goat is when the female actually seems to enjoy the entire episode! Why should that be? Does she feel some sort of perverse pleasure in the ‘apparent’ power that she holds in her hand? She did after all cause two friends to split apart, and surely that is no mean feat. Do girls just have a latent sadistic streak in them lying somewhere below the surface? Are they not the least bit concerned about the friendship that lies shattered in their wake?

An excuse that often pops up is that the female was unaware of the entire drama being played out of which she was a ‘supposed’ part. I’m not going to buy that. In almost all the cases I know, the females were only too aware of the friendships being ruined. And yet they didn’t care. They never do. And they never will.

37 comments:

Yashita said...
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Anna said...

Sheesh! talk about being misogynistic and not being misogynistic...
Sheesh!
Then along comes a girl, and suddenly things start to change.It could be because both guys have romantic interests in the common target, it could be because one of them is involved romantically and this bothers the other for some reason
that little para gives you the answer...
agreed that some girls do have a certain sadistic side to them but then so do some guys! Besides even if she is trying to "break" their friendship, why are the guys so stupid to let her???
the answer- girls are much smarter and much more responsible for things thst happen to them... Hence you dont see many girls cribbing about spoilt friendships and blaming it on a guy!

Pickled Red Herring said...

as one of these sadistic girls... i can tell you its most amusing to watch! you've hit the nail on the head. its like throwing pea nuts to a cage full of monkeys and watching them scramble around for it... quite quite entertaaining. btw we havent met but anna was rather intrigued by your entry and i just had to see what it was about.

ishita said...

hmm..saves a lot of time wen i get to comments and c sumone's already voiced my thots...@ anna!...

Arnold said...

anna - sheesh.. talk about being FCP! (yea, i'm inventing the term.. pah!)

pickled red herring - nice to know tht someone agrees.. do keep visiting

ishita - well.. i guess since anna mirrors ur thoughts.. my reply to her mirrors my reply to you ;)

_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

Well... Actually, Arnie, I WOULD ask the same question..

How AND why the fuck, did you let her do that to you and your friend??

And if anyone's wondering wht was in that deleted comment, well, it had lots of profanities at someone who shouldn't be yelled, or thats what I feel, on retrospection, that is....

SwitchBlade said...

Does this post have anything to do with the incident that took place the day before Anvit's party? And i see you are up to your girl bashing tricks once agin. You never fail to ruffle feathers do you? But then again there is something called FREEDOM OF SPEECH! Some people dont seem to get that nowadays.
And whats an FCP? More importantly whats the 'P' coz Ive figured out the 'FC' part.

Arnold said...

facesmasher - why did you delete the comment? are you defecting AGAIN!?!?!

switchblade - a feather ruffled is a day well spent.. or something like tht..

Arnold said...

yashita - (since fascesmasher has deleted his reply to you...) i have no idea what (or whom you are talking about).. and speaking of touching.. go touch urself

Lakshmi said...

you're really asking for it with this one, aren't you?? ....why should it always be the girl's fault??? its you stupid guys who need to keep your stupid hormones in check!!maybe few girls are sadistic and evil...but most of us are alright..jeez i could go on...but its pointless so i'll stop.....

Arnold said...

lakshmi - hehe.. yeah.. let's not get into this..

ambi said...

was all prepared to write sum indignant comment but looks like evry1 els did it for me...now i actually feel sorry 4 u cuz turns out free speech has a price ;)

Yashita said...
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Arnold said...

ambi - oh please bring forth the "indignant comment"s... cant wait.. am all ears..

yashita - umm... look who's talking!

_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

Wow.. this is takin an ugly turn... I'm bein asked y i delete my comment, my integrity for the cause is being questioned, freedom of speech is under seige, a gal's bein commanded to touch herslf, ppl are bein askd to grow up... Wow!!! Well... As cartman says, 'Screw u guys, I'm goin home!!'

Yashita said...
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Anna said...

and HERE we are again...
I thought some people were going to stop chatting and communicating...
Guess I thought wrong..

Ah-nild - you have no idea how disappointing it is to comb through your post and find absolutely no, i mean NO typos or spelling errors.. In desperation I even copy-pasted your post onto Word and it showed no errors except for "menage a trois" & "Something else altogether" !

How disappointing for me! and I thought I'd give back what I got!
:-(
Hmmpphh....

Arnold said...

anna - ah well, i'll clue you in to the latest sometime later.. though i fear it may put you to sleep .. (at least tht's the effect it had on me!)

and yea, the wonders that a little careful proofreading can do! never fails to amaze people! ;)

Anna said...
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Anna said...
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Anna said...

I don’t want to get into a cat fight, here... and I know, we women, generally, stick by each other...
But I just cannot resist!

@Yashita - Your first comment continues to remain a puzzle to me, no matter how many times I read it! you first vehemently deny that females are sadists. Then you say this post, which claims just that, is touching!
I don’t get it! Are you being sarcastic???

@Facesmasher - really, dude! you either delete your comment and keep quiet about it or you don't delete it in the first place! You do NOT spark other people's curiosity by making comments about the deleted comments. Esp when the heads of some persons who read this blog (like me)have a tendency to burst into a million pieces if they don't know something that everyone else apparently knows!

@Arnold - Two apologies:
1. For entering the fray and making a 'scene' (not to be taken literally)
2. For any typos or spelling errors and missing apostrophes. so there! Apologies in advance!

P.S- Sheesh! Talk about proofreading! Arnold, I'll be much obliged if you'd 'delete them forever'.

Bee said...

Anna... y do u take things so seriously??? its just a blog and comments...
comments meaning what people think... they dont always have to be right... and sometime what u think does not always have to be right...

Yashita said...
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Arnold said...

to all - i guess i'm the only one who knows wht all the deleted comments are.. seeing as in they still get delivered to my mail inbox even if they are later deleted! ;)

fun has come!

Anna said...

@yashita - You have misunderstood me. I am NOT giving Arnold 'sympathetic shoulder!
I am quite irritated by this post of his as is shown by my first comment.
What I want to know is... What exactly do you mean? Are you in symapthy with me and the FCP's (for want of a better generalisation)? or do you agree with Arnold?
I was under the impression that you were on our side, till, that last statement - Btw this post is actually quite touching u know...
So I was only asking about that!

Anna said...

@bee- You are wrong! I rarely think i am right. I suffer from major inferiority complex! Just shows you shouldnt read into comments too much, huh?

Siddhu said...

You get quite a LOT of response for your 'misogynistic' posts, don't you? LOL!

Arnold said...

siddhu - why do u think i write them, da??

go at it gals!!

_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

@Arnie, Y, anna, and everyone whom it may/may not concern: Well, as i promised, I WILL STAY out.. but It does get too tempting, why shud all u ppl hv all the fun. But then, a promise is a promise... Plus, Siddhu gotta point..

Arnold said...

facesmasher - okay.. could tht comment have made any less sense?!?

_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

And as for the deleted comment.. well Anna, it had some FOs bundled with some more profanities, directed at a person, who kinda deserves it, as well as does not(I aint decided on that single point as yet..)...

This should whet ur appetite for knowing the deleted comments further... :p

Arnie, before you say it again, NO, I DO NOT USE YOUR COMMENT SECTION AS AN ONLINE DATING SERVICE!!!!!
:D

Arnold said...

facesmasher - well... not as a very successful one, at least!

but seriously.. tht's all u seem to do around here!

_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

Gee dude... Dont say that out!!! You aint supposed to let things like these out in the open!! Arnie.. HOW COULD YOU??

Arnold said...

facesmasher - weren't you the one who just brought the topic up?? wht are you blaming me for??

_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

I just made it clear that i AINT USING this section as a cover for my covert activities!

Arnold said...

facesmasher - ok ok ! if u insist!