Saturday, May 03, 2008

Weddings: Suddenly Less Fun

It’s like an epidemic and an extremely contagious one at that. Everyone I know - my age, a little older, a little younger - seems to be either getting engaged or married. Literally everyone.

When I was younger, I used to believe that I would NEVER want to get married. I’d picture myself as a single bachelor (pardon the tautology) - the person all my friends would complain to about their wives at parties and other such occasions. A single bachelor accompanied a different girl each time. Or maybe the same one might stick around for a few months, or even a year, but certainly no such bond or commitment as frightening as “marriage”.

In my fantasy little world, I’d imagine them casting lustful glances at the girl I’m with, followed by sleisha fearful ones in the direction of their wives to see if they’ve noticed. “Why does this fool get to enjoy his life as he pleases,” they’d think, “while I’m stuck here with this ol’ hen!” I have a vivid imagination and it’s biased toward me.

Yes, that was the stupid old me.

I think it all started to change about a year or so ago. I can’t put my finger on exactly what triggered it - in fact, it probably wasn’t anything in particular - but I do know that slowly weddings seemed to be going from just happy events to happy events tinged with a bit of sadness and jealousy. I had reached “that” age and I realized that I DID want to get married - and how!

These days, when I hear of an upcoming wedding, I’ll still be happy for the couple - especially if I know one or both of them well. But I’d be lying to myself if I said that deep down - real deep maybe - I didn’t wish it was me instead. Not with that bride, of course, but well, you know.

Basically, I think I’ve had enough of the chicks, I want the hen - and I want her for life.

If you’re getting married and I know you, invite me. But if I appear a wee bit sad at the wedding, you know why.


_ð!®†ß¤¥ said...

no way!

Mulling Over My Thoughts said...

that makes the two of us!
EVERYONE is settling down!
these days everytime one of my old pals gets back in touch, it's to tell me they're getting engaged!
damn... we're getting older!
and worse, we're getting older alone!

Melody said...

Tell you what hon, next wedding you go to, I'll be your date & we'll both be sad together :)

Firefoxcub said...

awwww. It's probably your biological clock ticking away. ha ha.
I used to think I'd never marry either...something about not believing in the institution of marriage. But I'm all about ready now to be the 'hen', as you so eloquently put it.
Put an ad in the paper for a 'tall, fair and beautiful' bride. ha ha.

Janice said...

Thats honest :)

P1 said...

dude ... what has happened to you !!...I guess its the germany trip .. u ll be okay soon ..

Arnold said...

Mulling Over My Thoughts - Last I heard, you were well on the way to walking down the aisle -- what happened?

Melody - Sure, it just better not be yours! :P

Firefoxcub - Matrimonial ads? I'd rather die single -- bad as that may be! :)

Janice - Yus, indeed.

p1 - It may be because of Germany but I doubt it's going away any time soon!

Anonymous said...

there are so many things i could say to this post...not sure how to put them.
heh, i'm so proud of you, you know that.

Arnold said...

lara - Yup, I get what the "proud" is really about! :)

Abhishek said...

no! no! they can't get *you* of all people. Come back!

Mulling Over My Thoughts said...

hehehe...wasnt on this side then mate...was kinda sitting on the picket fences!
missed opportunities...
(just for the record...)

Siddhu said...

You're invited.

In 2009.

If you don't mind the fact that the language is likely to be completely alien (and we might have to run away from a few Slavic Neo-nazis -- true oxymoron).

Misery loves company. ;)

P.S.: bring hot chick in case I decide to change my mind.

R. said...

awwwwwwww .. quite unlike u! :O
i feel d same now .. except being a girl (n goin wid ur flow) i should say "I want the cock - and I want him for life." but well, it takes away all the seriousness from this business and makes me look like the biggest pervert around :|

Arnold said...

r. - There are just too many "fowl" related metaphors, I realized!

P1 said...

no doubt the matrimonial site sells that much !!

Anonymous said...

Man you are just 23!!! Ready for marriage already? Really?? No seriously, are you serious?

Arnold said...

Sanjukta - Almost 24, as I keep telling people! Almost 24! That's a grand-daddy age in these times! :(